I hired a nanny who not only didn't have any experience with child care, but didnt mention that she has a disibility, so me being the person that I am i decided to hire her, and that was the biggest mistake of my life. I am in no way discriminating aginst anyonwe with a disability because they are people too but to not mention that in your profile is not fair to any parent or family

it's not discrimmination if the person is not capable of fulfilling the job requirements due to his/her disability.

you're a parent. you have the right to protect your children from any direct (intentional) or indirect (unintentional) threat, whether aggressive or passive in nature - PERIOD.

This is why I love nanny contracts. I like to explicitly state: "if for any reason you are not capable of rendering chld care in the agreed upon manner, I reserve the right to terminate your employment (and if there is threat of harm to my children that termination witll be effective immediately)"

something to that effect.

i once concerned hiring a nanny - she charged a reasonable rate and had a strong reference (though only ONE) - but something in my gut told me to test the waters first.

i'm glad i did.

what i did was have her babysit a few times first.

she could not seem to show up on time (either very early while we were still in bed or late), would ask to leave early (on the day of the job - sometimes in the MIDDLE of the job), would take my son places she hadn't told me about in advance, didn't tell me that other adults would be involved in the day's events, etc, etc...

my son would tell me storiews of how she would "fight" with her friend on the side of the road and police came to the scene.
He would come home singing songs with some interesting words in them.

the last straw was when she dropped him off one day, not only NOT in a car seat, but not even the car seatbelt around him.

I have not contacted her since and don't plan to.

sorry "considered hiring" (typo)

tHANK YOU SO MUCH FOR RESPONSE BECAUSE I WAS VERY UPSET AND DISAPPOINTED WHEN THIS HAPPENED AND SHE WASA VERY UNGRATEFUL FOR ME EVENING GIVING HER THE OPPORTUNITY TO TAKE CARE OF MYCHIDREN, SO I ALSO FELT DISRESPECTED.

Not to scare you or anything, but when you have someone who is not behaving like a normal adult - and they are around your kids - you have to BE VERY CAREFUL.

If you think that the person you hired is disgruntled / unhappy / bitter and blaming you for things that are not your fault (normal situations) the you need to GET RID OF THEM.

A woman in NYC hired the extended family member of a close friend to be her nanny. Woman seemed nice - like a grandma type and kids seemed to like her - but she was always unhappy and always bringing up money and feeling overworked on the job, etc...

Well she killed that woman's kids (drowned them all) one day after the woman basically said "no" to a pay raise.

I rather be absent from work with no pay (stay home and watch my kids; collect unemployment - whatever) than to risk having a disgruntled nanny / baby-sitter kill my kids. If my care giver started to repeatedly make demands that i couldn't meet and seemed bitter every day I would say, "I'm sorry but i don't think i can offer you what you're looking for - i wish i could but i can't. i think we need to terminate this arrangment so that you can seek the type of employment / compensation you want elsewhere"

i would even rather pay her "severance pay" (money without doing any work for me) than have her stick around one more day while i looked for a new care giver.

you just NEVER know when you are up against Cray-Zay.

So sorry for your bad but well learned experience. I hope your family finds the best care.

Hi Keisha,

Don't feel that you are discriminating. The truth is that child care may not be an appropriate job for someone with disabilities. If ithe disability inhibits them from doing their job properly or being able to respond in an emergency it could endanger your children.

The bottom line is that this person withheld pertinent information. A lie is a lie, regardless of their motive.

You can't change the past, but you can leave an unemotional, but specific review to protect the next person looking for a nanny. Best wishes finding a better match!






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