A question for those of you who are separated or divorced.....

How old were your kids at the time and how did you explain it to them?

My kids are 3, 4, and 5 and we're only about 5 months into separation. I find myself determined not to tell them too much (more than they can handle) while also trying to be honest enough about what's really happening in our lives here.

I think I've covered it okay so far, but I was wondereing if any of you had anything to share that might help too, or that I may need to consider as my kids get older.

2 years ago, my daughter was 6 and my son was almost 2 when their dad and I split. We were not married. He was present, but not there.

What do you tell your children when they ask you questions like 'you still love daddy'? and 'why can't you live with daddy' I told my daughter that I loved him because he was their daddy, but we could not live together because we fought too much. She saw fights first hand and seems ok with that, the house is much more calm since his departure. My son is not really interested. He mentions him once in a while, but usually it's because Madison did.
I don't know how to explain why without bringing up why he left in the first place, so i have so far left it at that.

For a while I tried to encourage them to call him, write letters, and had pictures of him in the house so he was always close. This effort was totally one sided. Lately they don't want to call him, but they will talk when he calls (which has been once since we saw him in January), and still talk about him like they were just at his house yesterday. I don't know if I should keep at them about it or just let them decide on their own whether to call him. I am afraid that if I stop encouraging them, they will be mad at me when they are older for 'not letting daddy talk to them'.
So confusing...

I always make sure to tell my son that he was born out of love. And that even though we are not together today we are both so happy that he is here and that we both love him so much. We fight because we want what's best for him, not what's best for us. I always ask him, "Why do I love you so much??" He always answers, "because I came from your tummy" :) He's almost 6 and life is still so simplistic for him. They don't need to know specifics but I think as long as you remind your childern that they are so wonderful and wanted (even if you have to bite your lip and speak on behalf of their dad) they will be ok. Kids are smart, when their ready they will open their eyes and see clearly...

holy prophet is one spiritual man i would forever give regards to, he brought my husband back to me after my old friend tried to blackmail me to take my husband and made him divorce me with wrong accusation. But this holy prophet did a prayer that resolved issues with my husband and push the other lady far away from him. I am happy to have my husband back, this prophet is great. his email is holyprophet8@gmail.com, he really surprised me.