Finding gifts for people with dementia can be tricky. Not only are you trying to find something that suits their specific taste, but you also want to buy a gift that’s relatively simple and won’t cause agitation. That being said, finding good gifts for people with dementia isn’t impossible — and with a little research, the end result is sure to spark delight.
“Gifts can bring joy and comfort at any stage of dementia, notes Dr. John Showalter, chief strategy officer at Linus Health, a digital health company enabling early detection of Alzheimer’s and other dementias. “The best gift for a loved one will depend on the person, but any gift that is safe, designed to bring joy and avoids frustration is a good one.”
Whether you’re shopping for a birthday, the holidays or just because, check out our roundup of gift ideas for people with dementia. Our expert-vetted suggestions are low on frustration and high on joy.
Gifts for people with early-stage dementia
According to Jennifer Fink, host of the “Fading Memories” podcast and community educator for the Alzheimer’s Association, gifts for people with dementia in the early stages can be similar to something you’ve bought in the past. “Keep their current lifestyle in mind,” she says. However, Showalter adds, “gifts that promote socialization, engage the mind and promote emotional well-being” are always a good idea.
A few ideas, per Showalter and Fink:
1. Memberships to social clubs
It’s important to stay engaged and active in the community — any community! — at any stage in life, so consider a membership to a club or group you know piques their interest. Some options include bowling leagues, the Audubon Society or pottery classes.
2. Subscription to apps
There are a number of apps geared towards flexing cognitive muscles, including Luminosity, MindMate and CogniFit. The Alzheimer’s Family Center has a list of apps they recommend for dementia.
3. Puzzle books
Sudokos, crosswords, word searches — there are a number of puzzle books from which to choose. And for “pen and paper” folks, these are an especially good idea!
Where to buy: Sudoku Book ($7, Amazon)
4. Trips
Whether you take a trip you’ve always been talking about or go on an impromptu mini road trip, a getaway, Showalter notes, is particularly special, as nothing trumps “your time and presence.”
Gifts for people with middle-stage dementia
As folks progress to the middle stage of the disease, it’s best to keep things “more simple and more applicable to their changing abilities,” according to Fink.
A few options to consider:
5. Simple crafts
“I always suggest finding a more simplified version of a hobby they’ve enjoyed,” Fink says. “For example, my mom had always been creative, so it was logical to look to simplified crafts.”
Where to buy: Wreath Craft Kit ($15, Oriental Trading)
6. Clothes
People with dementia often lose or gain weight, Fink says, so clothing that is easy to get on and off in their new size “is a blessing.” Things like pull-on pants and tops with no buttons are ideal. Fink is a big fan of the adaptive clothing brand, Joe & Bella, which can make getting dressed easier and quicker.
Where to buy: Half-Zip Pant for women or men ($32, Joe & Bella)
7. Food
Food is always a good idea — and certain recipes, and their accompanying smells, have the ability to transport people back to a certain time and place or remind them of someone they love. And as a bonus, Fink notes, if you drop off a special meal they can put in the Crock-Pot or microwave, you’re also helping out their partner or caregiver.
8. Simple games to play together
The middle stage of dementia is the stage where “doing things” with them is likely more appreciated, Fink notes. Consider playing simple card games or Connect Four, which is is easy and visual.
Where to buy: Connect Four ($14, Amazon)
9. Simple outings
Again, spending time together is key. Fink suggests a simple outing that’s pleasant and isn’t overstimulating, such as an aquarium or botanical garden, and try to choose a time that isn’t busy.
Gifts for people with late-stage dementia
As dementia progresses, Showalter suggests placing an increased focus on comfort and things that will “bring joy and reduce agitation.”
Here are a few ideas:
10. Soft blankets
A soft blanket is perfect for anyone, but it can be incredibly comforting to anyone with late-stage dementia. “Simple is best during this stage,” Fink notes.
Where to buy: Wicked Plush Throw ($30, L.L. Bean)
11. Fuzzy socks
Just as good as a warm blanket are cozy socks to slip on when it’s chilly. “Don’t worry about feeling ‘cheap,'” Fink says. It’s all about keeping things simple.
Where to buy: Slouchy Marshmallow Socks ($19, Softies)
12. Stuffed animals
Another cozy option? A stuffed animal, which according to the Alzheimer’s Store, can reduce stress and agitation. From robotic to “regular,” there are a number of stuffed animals to choose from, all at varying price points.
Where to buy: Classic Bow Tie Teddy Bear ($61, Vermont Teddy Bear)
13. Music
Music is another way to “bring joy and reduce agitation” in people with dementia, Fink notes. Relish Radio is a simple-to-use music player that’s specifically geared towards people with late-stage dementia.
Where to buy: Relish Radio for Dementia ($150, Relish Life)
14. Scented lotions
According to Fink, “items that might be appreciated are things that smell good, such as hand cream for a nice massage.” However, she adds, “it’s best to avoid food smells, as you don’t want them to get confused and attempt to eat a candle.”
Where to buy: Warm Cashmere Body Lotion ($29, Philosophy)
15. Sweet treats
Chocolate, cupcakes, cookies — sweet treats are universally loved, and they’re a great gift for people with dementia, “as sweet is the last taste to go,” notes Fink.
16. Baby dolls
Baby dolls can be great for folks with dementia. In fact, there’s even Baby Doll Therapy, which has been proven to help reduce agitation in patients. Consider a simple doll or one geared towards people with dementia.
Where to buy: Newborn Comfort Therapy Doll ($120, The Alzheimer’s Store)
17. A day spent scrapbooking
Combing through photos together in a quiet environment can be both soothing and healing, according to the Alzheimer’s Association. And in the end, you’ll have a beautiful keepsake.
18. Adaptive dining ware
Another suggestion from the Alzheimer’s Association is adaptive dining ware, which prevents spills and makes mealtimes less frustrating.
Where to buy: Adaptive Dining Ware Set ($31, Amazon)
19. A skit
Fink notes that if there are young kids in the family, a skit, song or dance can be great for people living with late-stage dementia. “Let them be goofy kids,” she notes. “This type of interaction is great for everyone. However, it should be short, as dancing, twirling and singing kids can be a lot.”
The bottom line
When you give a person living with dementia a thoughtful gift, you’re having a “meaningful impact on their emotional and mental well-being and helping to enhance their quality of life,” says Showalter.
Just remember, keep it simple, Fink adds. “Take into consideration their current cognitive ability and focus on making them feel loved,” she says. “It’s less about stuff and more about feelings.”
